Great first lines for online dating
I don’t want to insult our readership with this, but for the troglodytes who somehow found their way to Primer: Aziz Ansari uses the perfect app pickup line: “Going to Whole Foods. ” It’s unexpected, overtly nurturing, and signals an upper middle class socioeconomic status. By targeting everyone generally you’re targeting no one.
Internal testing at Primer indicates the personal touch works.
It’s insanely difficult to be funny, engaging, interesting, etc., in an opening line with a girl you know nearly nothing about.For a location it’s gallant to ask what part of town they're in and then choose a cool spot that is more convenient for them if you’re in a different part – again, a familiar spot or familiar part of town helps put your date at ease. As it turns out, one in three people who’ve matched and messaged with someone on a site never actually meet them face to face. Even if she hasn’t heard it before, she’ll know and respect you less.Contrary to most of the advice out there, there is no set rule about when to suggest a meeting. Would you apply to a job with the exact same cover letter and resume? You develop a framework and modify to fit your particular goal. Here are some general guidelines for upping your message game.Step into her shoes for a moment: at some point you want her to meet up with you, an unknown male, in a dark bar or coffee shop she’s never been before, probably at night.In just about any other kind of social transaction, that would be insane.When you have a critical mass of message exchanges, the classic is always a winner. If you’re in a rush, scroll down for our robust 3-step formula. So it’s OK to develop a template and work from that (more on that in the formula below).Just don’t burn time messaging someone who isn’t interested in meeting. The good news is, many women explicitly say on their profiles they’re not looking for a pen pal. But spamming out the same generic message is a mistake.If you’re the kind of guy who does this, stop reading this article, get off the apps, and seek help.For most guys, however, it means just a few commonsense best practices. Flirt, but keep it G or PG until you’re face to face.But while you may be a boring dolt who is a complete drain on society, I’m a creative genius, and have perfected the art of openers.Today, on this blog, I am giving away 42 openers to all of you…COMPLETELY FREE OF CHARGE.