Dating long distance beginning
And that’s fair; we had it better than plenty of people who have to hop on a plane to see their partner.
But in many ways, long distance is long distance, regardless of the actual number of miles: spending time together required careful planning, was rarely spontaneous, and was never as often as I wanted it to be.
The first few weeks after we said goodbye passed in a flash.
I had my ticket, we knew we would see each other again in two months and we both threw ourselves head-first into busy schedules to pass the time.
If you're about to embark on a LDR or toying with the idea, don't lose hope — just ask yourself if what you have with this person is worth fighting for and potentially missing out on other options.
If the answer for both of you is yes, then keep your head up.
With so many people in long-distance relationships, more scientists have started devoting their energies to figuring out how these relationships work. Predictors of Positive Relationship Outcomes in Long-Distance Dating Relationships,” published in the , researchers identified several factors linked to the success of these partnerships.According to a 2006 study from Ohio University, a third of long-distance relationship end after three months of being reunited in the same city.So if you can make it to this point and still feel like you have something worth fighting for, than the odds are still in your favor. The truth is that most people aren't willing to make the sacrifices and take the risks necessary to make things work.If you decide that your relationship would benefit from talking through the issue, then reach out to your partner and be honest.Anyone who's worth waiting for will be eager to work through it together.Unlike most relationships, the time you get to see each other is When an amazing person is sitting across from you at dinner and waking up next to you in the morning, it's easy to remember why you're together.But when you're on two different continents, it's much more likely that you're going to have a bunch of time to ruminate and focus on the negative.In hindsight, there are definitely some things I wish I had fully understood before starting a long-distance relationship. For us, it was two weeks of spending almost every day together under the pretense of me "showing him around," culminating in an emotional last day in Coney Island.As I straddled his lap, wearing his sunglasses and scanning the beach littered with half-eaten funnel cakes and various other debris, he interrupted my daydream with, "Let's talk about the ocean." TBH, that was the last thing on my mind.The same goes for having a plan for when to permanently reunite, even if that date needs to be adjusted.It's important to know that you are both working towards being together at some point — or it's easy to feel like you're just wasting time.